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24th Feb 2020

Great Expectations

Today we're exploring how our greatest expectations can lead to our deepest sense of failure and if it's possible to change that.

WHY ARE WE DEDICATING A WHOLE EPISODE TO THIS?

We didn’t think it could fill an entire episode at first but as we recorded season 1 & 2 of The Good Fail it kept coming up. In fact, we realised it was a big factor in how we felt about failure.

WHY SHOULD OUR EXPECTATIONS INFLUENCE OUR FEELINGS?

Our expectations are a big deal for us. Even a small event turning out not as expected can hamper our enjoyment of it. It might seem silly that our foiled expectations have an impact on our feelings but they do.

IS THE ANSWER THEN TO MANAGE OUR EXPECTATIONS?

For the longest time we thought this was the answer. If we didn’t expect anything we couldn’t be disappointed. The problem with this thinking is that by limiting our expectations we also limit ourselves. It also doesn’t stop the disappointment any less. Brené Brown has something to say on this in her book Daring Greatly.

WHAT CAN WE DO INSTEAD?

In theory you should be able to let go of your ego and experience the world purely in the present, where expectations become meaningless. However, we think changing our perspective on the outcome is more doable.

HOW DO WE DO THAT?

Know yourself so you can recognise what you’re feeling and why.

Realise that disappointment is inevitable but that shouldn’t curtail our expectations.

Learn to trust that you can handle any situation that may arise.

WHAT CAN WE CONCLUDE FROM ALL THIS?

 Our expectations are here to stay, we just need to learn not to let them run the show.

WHAT’S OUR RECOMMENDATION FOR THIS WEEK? 

Daring Greatly by Brené Brown

A book that teaches us how allowing ourselves to be vulnerable can help us be happier, stronger people. 

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The Good Fail
A guide from creatives on not giving up.
The Good Fail is brought to you by twin sisters Merle and Abra Hunt, Illustrator and writer/actor respectively, as they navigate life as creators and the struggle to keep going in the face of apparent failure.
Together this is their response to the medias onesided image of success. They're learning to embrace their failure and turn it into a positive, bringing you a different perspective on what it looks like to succeed in the creative business and life in general.



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Abra & Merle Hunt

It started with finger painting, progressed to reams and reams of stick figures, scribbles, mother eating ghosts and anatomically incorrect spiders, grew into days spent in our room creating fantastical worlds we would draw and write about in fastidious detail, blossoming exponentially outwards as all encompassing hobby transformed to dedicated passion, when all school work came complete with intricate borders and full page drawings; we found new ways to express our inner world by breathing life into characters on stage and we counted the minutes we had to spend doing sports and maths lessons like they were hours. Later our creative zeal focused into a three year bachelors degree in illustration and a masters in creative writing, with it all finally culminating in a half finished illustrated novel, launching illustrated stationery business Merle Made Tales, collaborating on commissions for wedding and event stationery, getting the first few paid acting jobs and launching this podcast. One way or another, we were always going to be creators.